Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Photographs of Kids are Powerful


By Patrick Noaker

While preparing the paperwork for the sixth lawsuit against Bro. Raimond Rose and his employers in Fargo, North Dakota, I took the time to review the Shanley High School yearbook for 1978. It was a powerful reminder that we are dealing with kids who were manipulated and sexually abused by very dangerous men. Sometimes the fact that we are dealing with kids gets lost when cases are brought on behalf of adult men and women for abuse that occurred when they were children. Photographs have an unusual way of reminding us just how young, naïve and vulnerable we really were when we were kids. Whether it is the 1970’s hair style (I had an afro) or the wide-collared shirts, there is no question that we were once young. In contrast, we don’t ever seem to view ourselves as naïve or vulnerable, even when we were kids. The boy in the case that we will file on Tuesday, in Fargo was 14 years old when Bro. Rose sexually assaulted him. He has spent a lot of time in silence, secrecy and shame blaming himself for “allowing” the sexual abuse to happen or for not stopping it. My reminders that he was “ just a kid” and “ could not have possibly stood up to these adult authorities and their corrupt system,” seemed to ring hollow until we looked through his yearbook.

He was just a kid.

3 comments:

  1. Dave,
    I imagine you will get a lot of support, and probably some negative comments. Mine is a voice of support. I am sorry for what happened, and pray for healing for you. I offer my help as well, whatever that may be.
    Kevin Sittauer

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  2. Dave,
    I stood in awe of you yesterday in Fargo.

    Your bravery and strength to stand publicly for your fellow Shanley school mates and childhood friends of childhood sexual abuse by Raimond Rose is amazing.

    Your bravery has given strength to the other victims and their loving family members.

    Knowledge and understandings of childhood sexual abuse have been gained by the community and the Fargo Diocese.

    Stand tall David - your are an inspiration to all. Bob Schwiderski

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  3. Thank you Dave. You are a hero to those still innocent kids, whom you are protecting from the horrors of clergy sexual abuse.

    Judy Jones, SNAP Ohio Valley

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